Our relationships play a big part in how we spend our lives on a daily basis. The way we think, we act and believe is undoubtedly influenced by our relationships. Keeping a healthy relationship is a lot harder than starting a new one. It starts in the definition of a good and healthy relationship. An old saying goes "a lasting good relationship is not looking at each other but gazing at the same direction together." Logically speaking, to be able to reach the same goal, two people must be in sync in what they want to achieve. They must be gazing at the same thing together. This will mean that sound relationships are not co-dependent, they are inter-dependent.
Co-dependence in a relationship means that one must exist so the other can. This kind of relationship might suffocate the people inside the relationship. This establishes that one needs the other to exist and this happens by giving that person the power to rule your life and your happiness. This belief only constitutes an imaginary perfect world where there is a perfect ending. In reality, people in love have diverse needs and ideologies.
These things must not be caged but rather be nourished because this is the basis of our individuality. Interdependence happens when we are confident and trusting of our partner. This will not be possible unless we trust ourselves and who we are. When we have no insecurities, we will be able to judge and think clearly and see the real situations without bias. Both you and your partner can lead a free and committed life without fear of suffocation and loss of individuality. Relationships entails a little bit of everything, it is not enough that love is there. One must realized that for a relationship to work, trust, teamwork and interdependence must be present.
Emma Smith
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