Lots of people answer the question of how to save a marriage by saying: "Talk to your spouse and sort out your differences." This advice makes no sense at all. If your marriage has problems - you solve them by talking to each other, that's the way to go of course. But if those problems are so much that your marriage is clearly ending - then I'm sorry but, talking to your spouse will solve nothing.
I am saying this, because you are looking for ways on how to save a marriage. This means, your spouse wants the marriage to end in a divorce, but you want to save your marriage. If you talk to your spouse, it will be no more than a desperate "begging". Your spouse knows you don't want to end the marriage, and knows that whatever you say, you will say to sway him or her into stopping the divorce.
The best advice to give to whoever wants to save his or her marriage is: Stop begging, stop crying, straighten out yourself. No, you are not accepting the divorce. You will fight to the end if needed - but it won't be by crying and begging to your spouse. This will make you look even worse in your spouse's eyes, and he or she will want you less. If you want to save your marriage, do so with dignity and courage. Being courageous and taking the divorce head-on will make you stronger, and will make you more respectable in your spouse's eyes.
My marriage was failing on every aspect - it was such a troubled marriage that I thought there was no hope.
Yet, now I am still with my husband and I have saved my marriage
Juliette christian
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