Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Cultivating longing relationship

His gentle words softened her heart like aloe lotion softens the skin. Her soft touch melted away his icy expression like standing near a warm fire melts away a chill in the bones. This article looks at the softer side of friendship by discussing the role and nature of tenderness in love relationships and friendship.
Tenderness is a major ingredient to a warm and loving friendship. In the context of love, tenderness is the defined as: "considerate and protective; characterized by expressing gentle emotions" (Free Dictionary). As tenderness is characterized by consideration shown in a gentle manner, we can see that an intimate and close relationship is formed through warm and caring actions. How is tenderness expressed in a relationship?
Humble and Meek Posture
First, tenderness is expressed by having a humble and meek posture towards others. To be humble means to have a right understanding of yourself and others. It means that you treat others with equal honor and respect. To be meek means to have a gracious attitude towards others. It means you walk lightly in the presence of others, placing ego on hold for the benefit of the relationship.
Deep Interest in the Other Person
Second, to show consideration means being deeply interested in the other person. You ask sincere questions and then shut up to intently listen to their answers in order to know them intimately.
A Longing to Uplift Them
When formulating the relationship, you carefully observe their body language and become tuned into their moods and mannerisms. You become so aware of their way that you can diagnose their emotions from how they carry themselves. When they are visibly down, you notice and empathize with their struggle. A close friendship reaches out to bring a timely word or touch to uplift their loved one.
Tenderness is a vital aspect of intimate relationships and close friendships. It displays a deep sense of connection and gentle consideration towards a person's loved ones. Cultivate a genuinely tender attitude and you will have no trouble developing strong friendships.

Eric

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