You want to make him commit because you are in love and wanting to take things to the next level right? You seem to be the only one who is trying to move it along and you feel that he is the manatee of the dating world right? So what is it that is going to put him in pursuit or at least get him moving at your pace? Curious about any of these? Of course, so keep reading because there are some easy steps which you are about to learn.
Ok, first question: is this what you really want? Think about this seriously before you work towards moving this thing along. Why? Because you may not be dealing with fear of commitment. You may be dealing with indecision. Indecision is not something which is easily overcome, especially if the person is not aware of it. If he is indecisive in his feelings for you, what other kinds of things are you going to be left making the important decisions on while he stands by?
Second, give some more time to yourself. You are wasting your energy trying to make him commit. Why? Because a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. Redirect your energy to a new hobby or ambition. He may get a bit jealous. Great. Give him a reason to compete for your attention. You are worth a man who will do so.
Next, understand that being in this relationship does not mean that you cannot explore other options. Imagine, what if you could be with someone who would at least meet you halfway? Put a higher price on yourself and see if he is willing to pay it. Make yourself a bit unavailable and see what he does about it. Relax your role as the pursuer and see if he has the courage and the desire to fight for his place in your life. Just be sure that you reassure him when he does chase after you.
Do these things and you will either make him commit or you will free yourself up to have a man who is on equal footing with you.
Tina Jones
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