It's not easy to win love back because our hearts tell us the wrong things. For example, when a girl breaks up with a boy, the first thing he wants to do is go after her and get her back. Sometimes chasing is better than the catch, it's exciting. It's in a mans nature to hunt. This is usually means downfall, when a woman simply wants some space and he keeps chasing, it does more damage than good.Although it can be hard for men to realise this, sometimes it can be the only way to get your ex back. What I mean by this is that when someone you love leaves you, any actions you take could seriously effect your chance of getting them back.For example, chasing still counts if you are texting or phoning them.
If you are a man then you know how much woman talk. Because of this woman need to feel like they have closed the relationship. But, let her initiate this call. By doing it this way you avoid coming across as needy. As a result this gives you a great start.
Now, you may be wondering if this will show her that you don't care. Allowing her the space she needs sets you up very well indeed for getting her back.
Sometimes woman make a big deal out of nothing just so they get their point across. It just so happens that the way they tend to do this is by breaking up with you. But, if she is in love with you, she doesn't really mean this. What she's really saying is "let me have some time to process what just went on."
If you have done something to hurt her, you need to be contrite when she calls you. Explain to her how much you appreciate her and value your relationship. But you need to give her the space she needs to process the hurt.
It's quite common for woman to do this just for the attention. Finding yourself in this scenario is difficult but you need to take control and let her know that you wont put up with hell raising just for the sake of it. The easiest way to avoid this situation is just to ignore it. And that means not to chase her every time she goes away.
There are many reasons that women walk away from you and tell you that they never want to see you again. Sometimes they are hurt and sometimes they are just trying to be manipulative. In either case, you don't want to be the first one to call because that puts you in the position of being desperate.
Instead, let her call you. By doing it this way it gives you the control not her. Be sympathetic to her needs, but don't put up with any bull. This is the first steps to getting your loved one back.
John Bead
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