Wednesday, July 22, 2009

How to Save a Dying Relationship

We all want our romantic relationships to last. As much as possible, we hope to make it as smooth sailing as possible. Nonetheless, such ideal situation never really exists. There will come a time when disagreement between couples will surface. Problems and confrontations will arise, and soon after, what seemed to be inseparable and indestructible begins to crumble and shatter into pieces. You then wonder how you can save your dying relationship.
Of course, if you were in this case, you'd want to save the dying relationship. You'd do anything in your power to bring back the pieces together. We cannot afford to lose someone we hold so dear to our heart that's why we struggle to find ways to patch things up.
In most cases, the early stages of a relationship determine if a couple is meant to last. It is where you get to know your partner better and that is the time when you decide if you can accept everything that your partner is. This is the time when you try to adjust yourself toward your partner and you also work on compromising some of your own ideals and preferences for the sake of attuning your lifestyle, and probably your mindset, parallel to your partner.
At times, conflicts may arise and you may at times feel that things aren't working out the way they're supposed to. Then you start getting frustrated, and slowly, your ties begin to loosen up, beginning to separate the bonds that once were so strong.
It is a sad ending if such happens. Sometimes, pride gets in the way. Because of anger and frustration, you end up losing the relationship.
The thing is, because of too much pride and anger you forget to realize the worth of your partner. You tend to disregard everything that you've been through. More often than not, you realize these things but a little late than necessary. This will bring you much pain than you've ever felt which will make you think what you could have done instead.
There's a lot you can do to save your relationship. However, no matter what plan of action you choose, the success of saving the relationship wells from both of your conscious effort to make things work.
Both of you must want to patch things up. You must take time to understand the situation, accept the things you've done wrong, and start with a determined stance of making things better for the sake of love. At times, your partner may want to have some space and time to mull things over and that is perfectly okay.
Communication is key; everything works out when there is communication. Let your partner know what you want and don't want, and what you're willing to compromise. Make your partner feel that you want the relationship to last and that you are willing to give anything just to make it work.
Coming into terms to save a dying relationship may be complex for some but it is relatively easy. This stems from your sincerity and genuine desire to be with the one you love. If you have that in your heart, then nothing can be a problem.

Melissa Haworth

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